Should I come out? Am I too young?

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Hi, I'm Claire. I'm 12 years old and I'm Bi. I don't know if I should come out. I am worried that I am too young and people will think its just a phase. Also, my father Is homophobic! I need advice.

EDIT: BTW do not send hate to anyone because of their sexuality!
asked Jun 2 in TeenTalk by Buiscut
edited Jun 2


7 Answers

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It will take courage to come out of the closet like that, and even if I do not support it, you can be what you want to be. Don't be afraid to share yourself with the world.
answered Jun 2 by Kitten (285,750 points)
edited Oct 30 by Kitten
I can't choose this. It's not a lifestyle, it's how god made me. You don't have to be 100% supportive, but I want people to know it is not a choice, I hope you understand.
God made you to love a different gender than you, In my opinion
EXCUSE ME? DO YOU THINK PEOPLE CHOSE TO BE BISEXUAL? IF IT WAS A CHOICE I WOULD BE STRAIGHT SO I WON"T BE BULLIED! I AM RELIGIOUS AND LOVE GOD! HE MADE ME LIKE BOYS AND GIRLS!

I am supporting you Buiscut! im bisexual too and in the closet. dont let the haters get you
WOAH. I know Kitten, he didn't mean hate, and kitten DID say "in my opinion" so you can't jude a person for their opinion, otherwise they have full right to judge yours.
Wow what's with this??? I don't support y'alls choices, because yes, you may feel a connection but it's a choice in my opinion. But I don't hate y'all. I agree Luna. That's his opinion on it.
I actually joined the school G.S.A (Gay straight alliance)

Even if I don't fully support it, People should not be discriminated because of that, so it really hurts when you call me a hater. Kidzsearch would also reject and hide a hateful comment. Everything must go through moderators before it is posted.
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At 12 years of age you are simply too young to be dating, or in any relationships. Wait until you are at least in high school before making such a life changing decision. 

Honestly, you may change when you are older, and if you don't that is fine too.  Trust me, you just don't know (even if you feel 100% sure now) and will be a very different person in a few years. If you don't plan on being in a relationship, which you should not be, there is no point in doing anything at this point. Just be a kid and enjoy your life. Focus on school and what you want to do with your life. You don't need the extra stress and it does not matter if you are not in a relationship.

 

answered Jun 2 by my 2 cents worth of advice
I agree!
I dont want to be in a relationship, I just want to know if I can tell my parents
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I am 12 and im lesbian, I can honestly relate. I have come out to my friend's here on kidzsearch, other than that, I haven't told anyone. I have done a lot of research on when i should come out to my parents, I have decided myself to come out when i am older with a job and my own place to live, that way I don't rely on my parents in case they react badly and kick me out or anything like that. And as for just a phase, I know it isn't, I don't get why people think it is. And I also agree with your comment about this not being a lifestyle, I don't think anyone would simply choose to have such pressure of coming out and worries, doesnt make sense huh?
answered Jun 3 by LunaLight (68,690 points)
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Hmm... I think you're too young to participate in any type of relationship, not mental and not physical either.

Stay away from these things until you become older, maybe 16, 17 or 18, it depends.

I don't know much about bisexuality, but definitely, I do NOT hate people just because of their sexaulity. What can you do with that, after all? I believe it's made by the hands of the God. What can human beings do with their sexuality? What will you be, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, heterosexual... It's decided by the God, himself. There's nothing to do with it at all!

Be what you are. Hope my advice helps you! teeth_smile

answered Jun 5 by JD2005
i totally agree that god made people gay or trans
Well, technically He wouldn't have made them trans, He would have made them one gender and they switched, though He could create the desire to be trans I suppose.
+3 votes
I am kinda in the same spot...
answered Oct 29 by -Moonlight- (51,960 points)
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I think that it is amazing that you want to come out! And I totally support your actions! But I think it is best if you wait a little. You are 12 right? Maybe come out of you are a little older. One of my friends came out of the closet as Gay and no one (but me cuz I'm his best friend) actually believed it because he was "too young to understand" and stuff. I'm just saying wait a little. Maybe when you are older. I support your actions and decisions! Ty for reading
answered Oct 29 by Kitty_Kat
I have a few friends who have come out of the closet irl. I have a friend who is pansexual, a couple who are bisexual, one who I am not sure but she has a girlfriend as well as being trans. And I am lesbian myself. They embrace it and their parents for most of them know and are fine. I tried with my mom, she didn't believe me cause I "didn't have a reason I thought I was gay". A couple of my friends will not come out to their parents, homophobics. And my other friends go on about fighting homophobia one person at a time.
Yes. My friend became depressed because he had a very close relationship with his parents but they didn't believe him at first. But then he got a boyfriend and showed them that he really was gay and happy to be. (My friend is older than me) His parents THEN started to believe him.
My mom is fine with it, but doesn't believe me. My dad would probably be a more difficult convo.
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I am also 12 and I am a lesbian, just be yourself, but you might want to wait until you tell your dad, I understand how it feels.

-Jabber
answered Nov 5 by Jabber (11,910 points)

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