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Hi, I'm Claire. I'm 12 years old and I'm Bi. I don't know if I should come out. I am worried that I am too young and people will think its just a phase. Also, my father Is homophobic! I need advice.

EDIT: BTW do not send hate to anyone because of their sexuality!
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I'm in the same situation tbh. I'm also nonbinary. It feels good to relate to someone. Ig I'm not that qualified to give you advice that I don't have the guts to take the advice myself right now but know you aren't too young. I'll try though my best to give you advice though. About your father, try to find out just how homophobic he is and maybe try to educate him if he's open-minded. Otherwise I'd wait until I have a safe place and back-up plan for when you do come out just in case. Also maybe tell both that a friend of yours came out and see how they react. It's hard but even if they (absolute worst case scenario) disown you, don't lose hope and remember there is so many people just like you. I'm one of them at least
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I'm in the same situation!  You should not be afraid of being who you are, you are you and you can't change that. This is my opinion if you come out to someone and they just start acting weird and start being rude they where never your friends in the first place. I would wait a little while to tell your parents and try to talk to them about it. Worse come worse And you date your same gender you can just say there your friend. I love you!!!! You got this!!!!



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I am 12 and im lesbian, I can honestly relate. I have come out to my friend's here on kidzsearch, other than that, I haven't told anyone. I have done a lot of research on when i should come out to my parents, I have decided myself to come out when i am older with a job and my own place to live, that way I don't rely on my parents in case they react badly and kick me out or anything like that. And as for just a phase, I know it isn't, I don't get why people think it is. And I also agree with your comment about this not being a lifestyle, I don't think anyone would simply choose to have such pressure of coming out and worries, doesnt make sense huh?
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At 12 years of age you are simply too young to be dating, or in any relationships. Wait until you are at least in high school before making such a life changing decision. 

Honestly, you may change when you are older, and if you don't that is fine too.  Trust me, you just don't know (even if you feel 100% sure now) and will be a very different person in a few years. If you don't plan on being in a relationship, which you should not be, there is no point in doing anything at this point. Just be a kid and enjoy your life. Focus on school and what you want to do with your life. You don't need the extra stress and it does not matter if you are not in a relationship.

 

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I agree!
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I dont want to be in a relationship, I just want to know if I can tell my parents
by (43.0k points)
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I mean, you can still have crushes when you are 12. If you are going through puberty, it is fine to have them, you just don’t want to be in a relationship quite yet.
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It will take courage to come out of the closet like that, and even if I do not support it, you can be what you want to be. Don't be afraid to share yourself with the world.
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I can't choose this. It's not a lifestyle, it's how god made me. You don't have to be 100% supportive, but I want people to know it is not a choice, I hope you understand.
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God made you to love a different gender than you, In my opinion
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EXCUSE ME? DO YOU THINK PEOPLE CHOSE TO BE BISEXUAL? IF IT WAS A CHOICE I WOULD BE STRAIGHT SO I WON"T BE BULLIED! I AM RELIGIOUS AND LOVE GOD! HE MADE ME LIKE BOYS AND GIRLS!

I am supporting you Buiscut! im bisexual too and in the closet. dont let the haters get you
by (165k points)
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WOAH. I know Kitten, he didn't mean hate, and kitten DID say "in my opinion" so you can't jude a person for their opinion, otherwise they have full right to judge yours.
by (415k points)
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Wow what's with this??? I don't support y'alls choices, because yes, you may feel a connection but it's a choice in my opinion. But I don't hate y'all. I agree Luna. That's his opinion on it.
by (1.34m points)
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I actually joined the school G.S.A (Gay straight alliance)

Even if I don't fully support it, People should not be discriminated because of that, so it really hurts when you call me a hater. Kidzsearch would also reject and hide a hateful comment. Everything must go through moderators before it is posted.
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Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!
by (1.34m points)
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thanks
by (43.0k points)
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While I know this is just your opinion (and I mean no hate), people can’t choose. My reasoning always is: If God created us all, then he created us to like the same gender. So God technically wanted this. If we were all the same, the world would be quite boring. But, I respect your opinion.
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by (153k points)
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BEING LGBTQ+IS A CHOICE GOD CREATED YOU TO BE SOMETHING A BOY OR A GIRL AND THAT IS BECAUSE HE HAS A PLAN FOR YOU! HE WILL MOLD AND SHAPE YOU INTO SOMETHING WONDERFUL.
by (1.34m points)
Agreed



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