Help me, i am scared of my dad.

Question

You all know me and who I am, and many of my closer friends here will probably guess who I am, but I don't want to post this on my account. Some things, just no.

 

So I am scared at home when my dad is there and not at work. And i hate the cigarette smoke. When he comes home he always comes home in a bad mood, complaining about everything to me and my mom, not caring about anyone else's problems. And then he lists about 5 chores for me to do per minute and I am trying to get them done without him yelling more. When he gets really mad at me he hurts me somehow. He has grabbed the back of my throat, slapped me hard enough for my glasses to bend, shoved me into a wall, ect. If I ever argue or have any opposing opinion at all he will yell and say my opinion does not matter and no one wants to hear it. One day right before heading out to go to school he was yelling and threw my hairbrush at the wall so hard I thought it broke. I left for school crying and running out of the house. Whenever there are rare situations where my mom leaves me with my dad and he does anything to me and yells more if I text my mom about it. I want to run a hide in my room and lock myself in when he is home. My mom and brother don't see it enough to know. My brother loves my dad because he never got to see him when he was younger because of his childhood, but I would honestly trade. Every time I cry, I am called a cry-baby. Every time I am mad I am a disrespectful child. Every time I am happy it doesn't last long. I just want to run away, maybe stay with my best friend. I would have... i would have run away one day when both my parents made me cry and my brother seemed to ignore it, but then when i was in my room my brother hugged me, and i cried then too, but it helped. What do i do? And talking to a therapist or school couslor is out of the question, i know what would happen if i told a counslor because they are mandatory reporters, any time somebody is being hurt, wants to hurt themselves, or hurt others they have to tell somebody that by law. I would get in trouble. I just want it to stop. I can't talk to him, I can't defend myself, I want to run, but I have no where to go but school.

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Tell your friends. call DCFS if you live in Illinois

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Call child support or 911 if it’s child abuse. Tell your mom first though. Then call someone if she doesn’t do anything

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listen to... Into The Sea (its gonna be okay)

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I’m so sorry I have never had that happen to me before that’s so scary.I’m only 9 and in fourth grade I do not understand 

GIRL IM PRAYNING FOR YOU!!!

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You have got to tell someone this is serious. This is terrible if you have a cell phone call 911.

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Get help. I know we are all saying this , but this is serious.

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GET HELP GIRL! This is SUPER serious you need to tell ANYONE that can help you!

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Yeah

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my dad is really grumpy too sometimes, and when that happens, i just imagine link from legend of zelda hitting him in the face with arrows. that probably wasn't helpful, sorry. im also worried that my dad's grumpyness comes from an alcohol addiction

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like the comments saying call 911 and get help, maybe if you can’t, ask your friends or someone you trust that’s not a parent. do it alone. but try and do it quickly.

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Get child support or call 911. Your father is crazy.

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Most people in these situations don’t confront anyone. I would start by convincing other people that your dad is mean. Your brother for instance. As for real proof, take a photo of your glasses or some handprint he left when he slapped you.

Talk it out with your counselors and your mom.

With your mom’s permission, call the child abuse center. No adult should make you go through this.

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Back in the 60s no one was available to help me with an abusive father.

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Pardon this but if you're seeing this now, after this time:

Why did nobody question why Mike had an abusive father in the '60's???? 

*Wow we've got like a 70-year-old on KidzTalk, impressive....*

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Definitely a record. Oldest person I’ve seen before was 60 and did an eye reveal.

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Wow. That must've been interesting...

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It’s still up under the “What color are your eyes” post, it’s by GEMHeart.

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Yeah I've seen that. Didn't notice the user though, I'll have to look again

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IF THEIR NAECK IS SLAMMED TEN ITS ABUSE

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I am so sorry! Please call the SAMHSA hotline to help the abuse you’re going through, that can help you. Its phone number is (1-877-726-4727) and it will help you GREATLY!

I’m 10 and have been to this exact place and it helps a ton.

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It's a good advice to calm down, but it's child abuse, nothing's gonna stop, you have to call child support or the police.

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god bless you all dear god bless these people.

p.s Nicole101

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I am terribly sorry that your dad is abusing you like this. He is both emotionally and physically abusive. You need to stand up for yourself. Call the police. Call Child Protective Services. Get your dad arrested! Record video evidence of him abusing you. Evidence is your best friend in these cases.

Answer 1

Awww Luna... I hope this gets better. I hope he knows that second hand smoke is really bad for children, and that only been around to direct is also really not good. I suggest you talk to your mom about it, but seriously, show her that you mean it. And you should also be sure that your mom can set steady grounds with him, some dad's don't listen to mom's so you might have to make it more so people he knows gets it. Scary, but it's my only idea.

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Try to talk to a counselor, teacher or therapist. What he is doing to you is inhumane! I feel so sorry for you. I would give you a BIG hug if I could. Try to enroll in s
Afterschool classes so you dont have to spend a lot of time at home.

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Robotics ended, anime club keeps getting canceled, and I rarely have girl scout meets.

Answer 3

Oh. This sounds hard. I'm sorry. So, ok, when I went to the school counselor for the first time about the cutting, she literally told no one even though she was supposed to. This was before my mom knew and my first therapist appointment was a lot of weeks from then. The counselor didn't really help, but yours might be different so I say give it a try. If that doesn't work, go to your mom. Tell her about all the things your dad has done to you, and you should definitely tell her about him abusing you. Don't get mad, and try to stay level with your mom if things go wrong. And don't blow up on her. Hope this helps!

P.s. You probably know who I am as well as I know who you are

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oh my God really.......

uh I'm so sorry u must be in so much pain

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aw, it's ok, im fine now, i just have GAD.

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If he hits you again call the police!

Answer 4

Oh wow i am sorry... You should definitely tell your mom... Idk what ese to tell you... I can't really relate sorry but you should tell your mom!

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Hi luna. I donot Know you personaly. Or I haven't met you or anything but. I Just wanted to Give you an advise so hear it gose. Just talk to your mom and see what she says. I will be okey I will pray for you. Talk to her please

Answer 5

I think you should try and talk to your mom about it. Be as serious as you can if you do bring it up to her, point out specific instances where your dad has hurt you (try to list at least three), pour your heart out to her, tell her how you feel and don't hold back. You need to show her that you're not being dramatic, tell her honestly about how your dad makes you feel. Heck, by the looks of it he seems to be a hazard to not only your emotional health but also your physical health (smoking, slapping, hitting, choking, all of those are 100% physical abuse and never ok to do to your child). If you don't trust your mom, then maybe you can get your brother to listen.

I hope your okay Luna, this type of behavior from a parent is not acceptable and straight up abusive. It's a big problem and I really hope you'll be able to make your family see that. If all else fails and the abuse continues, then you might have to tell a counselor. I know it's scary, but if you really want to get your parents to listen it may be one of your last resorts.

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Darn it, I figured you could tell it was me. HOW!?

 

But my mom kinda knows. She knows the full extent of his anger that I do not even know, like when he used to drink. Smoking and complaining are just about the only vices he has left.

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If she knows how bad he can get, has she done anything about it? Like try to calm him down, take you out of the house when he's angry, get your dad to a therapist? She needs to know this is affecting you too and something has to be done about it.

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She tries to be the mediator sometimes, but mostly it is about my chores and attitude. My mom just says things to prove him wrong once in awhile, but it doesn't last ten seconds. The last time my mom talked to him about me that I know of is when my dad rarely spent time with me, like if he went to go fishing, he brought my brother but not me. That was awhile ago, when he still got things for me, my mom and my brother whenever he went somewhere like Florida, California, New York, ect.