Labeling

Question

So, for a while now I have labeled myself lesbian. But lately, I have been questioning that. 

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So, basically, I was writing in my journal one night, and I randomly started to write about if I should label myself lesbian. The names of certain people have been replaced with an emoji. The entry is as follows:

So, I don’t know if I’m allowed to label myself lesbian yet, considering I have only like-liked one person, , 10th grade, dancer, my one and only (true) crush. She’s so cute and I can’t get over it. I can’t help feeling like I need to be perfect around her. But does this mean I’m lez? I mean, I could be bi or pan, it doesn’t mean I’m lez because I’ve only liked one person. Yes, she’s a girl, but I might like boys in the future. Whew, I needed to digest that.

This had been over my head for a few days prior to the entry (March 13th, 2020), but it still does now. I don’t know when I’ll like someone else, but I don’t even know if I should label myself yet. What do you guys think? Are there rules to being lez and bi and pan and such that I need to know?

Answer 1

I would say, call yourself lesbian for now and if it turns out you like other gender(s), change your label. There’s no shame in changing it - it’s just you figuring yourself out. There are not really any rules apart from stuff in the word meanings - bisexual is liking two genders (doesn’t matter what these genders are) and pansexual is more than two or all genders. You can still be lesbian but occasionally curious about other genders, etc.

Hope this helps :)

Answer 2

You can label yourself as a lesbian now for sure! Maybe you will start liking boys (maybe), but if you are in tenth grade you seem to have passed to boy crazy phase so maybe you are a lesbian.

Comments

Oof, sadly I am not in 10th grade, I just like someone who is. It’s tough.

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My dude you reaching. But honestly same XD. Can't judge, I have a crush on a celeb that thirty-forty years older then me LOL

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Lol this one is 5 years older

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U in fifth grade?

Answer 3

No rules, and if anyone says otherwise they are either lying or found it from a person lying on the internet. For general meaning, bisexual is just boys and girls, lez is girls and pan is all. If you haven't had a crush on a guy, only a girl, it is perfectly fine to label yourself as lesbian, or you could say bisexual leaning more towards girls if you want. I myself will say lesbian but my sexuality is more of a mix between lesbian and demisexual, so demi-homosexual or demi-lesbian would work too. You can do that too, crossing sexualities, that is kinda what "bisexual leaning more towards..." is, you would identify as bi, but mixed with homo or straight depending on the gender.