Girls Only! (Why do I feel so naive?)

Question

I keep having this weird feeling that I’m so dumb that I’m not meant to be born, everyone keeps saying I’m too naive and stupid and I act like I’m 2 years old. My friend Sara, she has no sense of humor, I try to have fun with her and she cares about every small mistake I make. She thinks boys are too stupid and I have a few friends that are boys ( no boyfriends) and she blames me. I’ve never seen her smile. She talks about the negative things in the world and she’s always getting mad at me. Since then I feel so stupid. Other kids are like that too. I even felt dumb before I met these people. I am kinda clumsy but I do that not to be weird. One of my friends left the group chat because I was funny. She said I’m too weird to be around her. My other friend Clara, forget about her, she didn’t let me be friends with her! I’m not too clumsy, and in these days I’m trying to get my head off of quarantine,  I’m not trying to be naive. That word makes my skull break so I try not to use it anymore. My teachers love me (expect for a few) but my friends hate me. That’s a sign that it’s not my fault, so is it my fault, am I too weird, and has this ever happened to you?

 

 

 

 

 

Answer 1

First off, i think you deserve better friends than that. Second, all of that usually comes with just having a more child-like attitude, which is no where near a bad thing. Irl I am like that too, and I have lost friends because of it before but those were also toxic people I did not need to have in my life. If they treat you like that, just be careful. I'm not gonna tell you who you should be friends with because that is something only you can decide, but I would be careful about trusting them, and personally I would find some more friends.

Answer 2

Yes, I get that feeling a lot. Being the youngest of my grade, it’s easy to get pegged as “immature”, not to mention the fact that i don’t have social media or safari, so I never know what’s “in”, AND my ADHD makes me seem hyper, overly optimistic and bouncy, therefore also making me seem younger. I have protective parents and I am not allowed to go to sleepovers or watch PG-13 movies. Sometimes I end up feeling like an immature baby, but then I realize that this is just who I am and if my friends don’t like it then they don’t like me, and you don’t have to cut them out of your life entirely, just maybe try finding some new people and pushing the negative people off to the side.

Comments

My parents are also pretty over protective. Everyone else makes fun of me because I can't do certain things.

---

My advice is just to relate with them and say “yeah, it’s annoying that I can’t do “xyz thing”, but it’s out of my control. If I had it my way, I’d be able to do it.”