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I'm eleven years old and am nonbinary. I am to young to be taken seriously by I know who I am and it hurts to have to listen to people constantly misgender me and I know it's not their fault since they don't know but it feels awful. I'm planning on telling one of my friends tomorrow so wish me luck. This is kinda turning into a vent so sorry about that but it's a substitute until therapy starts. (Regular therapy not the homophobic kind)  Please don't be transphobic! IDK why I picked this advice column it was just random. How can I come out? I'm so scared of what might happen the idea of coming out and imagining the scenarios feels like a fever dream. Please help me!
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I’m 11, and bi/les. I feel the exact same. Just know you’re not alone.

❤️, Lewie
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Hey! Im 11/12 and I am lesbian! I haven't come out to my parents or little brother yet, because im afraid they will judge me for knowing my sexuality at such a "young" age. But sometimes you just...know. Am I right? Its totally ok! You don't need to come out to anyone unless you are perfectly ready to; just relax!



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Hey! Don’t worry, I’m 11, gender fluid, and bi! Just find a time where ur alone, and tell them! If they don’t support u, they ain’t it. Leave them if they don’t, they aren’t worth it.
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Thanks what I'm really worried about is my parents since I can't just leave them. They seem supportive but like they may be the kind to be all "your too young to know" and all that so....
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Jelly I didn’t know you were fluid! That’s so cool, what pronouns do you use? I ask because some people use she/they, he/she, she/he/they, or some combination thereof, or other pronouns such as xe/xir or fae/faer, lemme know!
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Anonymous, it will be ok. They will love u no matter what. Lemony, I use she/he/they pronouns, usually I change them everyday. Today they r she/her btw
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Thanks
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Oh Jelly I had no idea! Cool!
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Breathe. First of all, there is no age too young, I figured out I was lesbian at the same age. Second, I made a long reply to the Ask Arkzo post. 3. *hugs*
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Thanks!
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It's totally fine! I'm sorry this is happening. Sometimes people misgender me too! This girl in my class has this problem too but TBH she is just straight up about it!! If you are stern and stand up about it, no one will mess with you!! I hope this is helpful! And this is totally fine! It will help you find yourself for the future.

XOXO pink pearll

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Thank you but I think you missed a part. I'm still completely closeted (except for maybe with my friend fingers crossed) it's not an attack at me I'm just too scared to come out yet and they don't know yet. It still hurts but it's really not their fault.
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I have gender fluid and non-binary friends, I gotcha! I’m really sorry that people are misgendering you, I can’t exactly empathize since I’m cis but i know teachers misgender my close friend all the time, it seems like it hurts. I wish you lots of luck for telling your friend, if they’re a real one then they’ll support it and stick by you. Remember to always march tot he beat of your own drum and don’t change for anyone! My friend once came out to a group chat over text when somebody in passing said “she” and she remarked quietly “actually I’m not a girl,” it did take everyone a while to notice but everyone supports them and uses their pronouns now!

Hearts, Lemony rainbow




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