What is the name for my sexuality?

Question

I’ve felt that I was different since I was only 11 years old*. Before then, I couldn’t imagine being with a girl. Now, it’s all I ever think about.

I’ve never had a boy crush before. When I was 9-10 years old I made up my own crushes to fit in with the other girls. Weird, I know. But at the time it seemed so cool to have a crush. Right now, it feels so weird to have a crush on a boy. I know a lot of girls who fall in love with boys (of course). As a homosexual tween, it feels unnatural for me to be with a boy, just as it feels unnatural for some straight people to be with the same gender.

I’m growing up as a human, which means that I fall in love, cry, eat, and make mistakes. I try not to distract myself with crushes, except I can’t control who I like. I have had a crush on a genderfluid person really recently. Let’s call this person A.K. She/he has two nicknames, a boy nickname and a girl nickname. He was born as a girl but she is still deciding her sexuality and gender. For now, A.K identifies as a bisexual genderfluid.

Let me get this straight: I am okay with being with a girl but not a boy. I’m okay with being with any gender but a boy. I’m not those type of people who still think boys have cooties. I just think that being with a boy is not right for me, as a person. However, I do create friendships with boys sometimes. Boys have had crushes on me before.

So if I fall in love with any gender but a boy, what does that make me?
 
*I am 12 and a half, and I am a cisgender female.

Comments

I think you might be polysexual? But regardless you know you better than anyone else I try not to worry about my sexuality and I just have a crush on who I do ig. Good luck

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Poly typically includes boys, similar to pan. There isn't really an official word for it.

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Well, I did some research on the word poly. It means you are attracted to multiple genders, but not all. Maybe that’s me?

Answer 1

Bi? I mean that means you like any two genders, so maybe?

Answer 2

sonds like you could be bi, pan, or lesbin. talk to your parints or siblings about it.

Answer 3

for one thing, i am in this exact same situation. i am still exploring my sexuality, like you. one thing that i have discovered that might work is called neptunic. it means attraction to females, female-aligned people, and non-binary people. i think this might be a term that could fit you :)

also, there is also a sexuality called omni-sapphic. this means you are attracted to all genders, but have a female preference.

i really hope this helps :D

Answer 4

I figured it out! You would be neptunic. Its not as common but it does exist

Answer 5

woah, late answer!

You’re poly! :)

Poly means attracted to multiple genders but not all, I have some friends who like boys and enby and some that like girls and enby, others too!

Have a great day :D

Answer 6

Just another thing: I have been calling myself “lesbian” until I had a crush on A.K.

Answer 7

1. I had to check the username to make sure this wasn't me, cause I've been in the same situation. 2. I've tried doing research, but I can't find an answer to that. I can't find any specific term for that. There are homosexual and skoliosexual (the attraction to only trans or non-binary folks). So I would probably use a word like homoskoliosexual, even though it is long. Or simply say "not boys" lol. Personally, I am a long word too, which is homodemisexual. Homodemisexual basically means that I don't have any physical attraction until an emotional connection and emotional attraction is established, and I don't like guys either. Non-binary, it depends. But, homoskoliosexual is the best term I can think of, so if you want to use that, you may.

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Thank you!