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Just Wondering...

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asked Mar 18 in Other by TomBoyFoxGrl (4,880 points)
What if your friend is in an abusive relationship and your parents don't care and your siblings are off in a whole nother state across the country and you cant text them because they are in the process of hating you and all you can do is hate yourself for not doing anything to help your friend and cry every time you see her and abuse yourself and your friend continues getting hurt and you just want to die and not want to feel anything so you start not caring about yourself or anyone else and your parents still dont notice or care and you friend unfriends you for being so useless and gets out of the relationship and the starts bullying you and since they know most of your secrets they spread the word. He he he just wondering.
commented Mar 22 by Sarah (170 points)
how dark.
commented Mar 22 by TomBoyFoxGrl (4,880 points)
LOL


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answered Mar 18 by anonymous
What I would do I would sit down with them and tell them that you wanted to help them sooo badly but you didn't know how and explain that you wanted to help so much and it stressed you out so eventually after trying to think of ways to help you started getting depressed and blocked out all of your emotions and then tell them that you are truly sorry and you understand why they got upset with you and ask them to forgive you and give them a few days to think about it and after a few days ask them if you and the other person is coolant ask if you two can try to fix the friendship
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answered Mar 18 by LunaLight (133,440 points)
Tell someone. Obviously, parents don't seem like a great option here, maybe a school counselor or a teacher or something like that. Do this first and foremost, and for the situation, ask them to keep your name out. Try to talk to your friend. If the ties are severed and you don't think there is any chance of being friends, then don't ask to be. You don't have to be friends for you to offer your help. And that's all you can do, just offer to help them, and try to express more empathy and concern than desperation for friendship. Your main concern is helping your friend, correct? Then let them know that even if they treat you like **** and/or don't like you, that you'll still be there to help. Don't stoop to the level of arguing, if they tell you they don't want your help, they could be lying or just don't want to talk. Pushing farther will only make things worse, just letting them know you're still there will be enough for them to ask for help when they feel they need it. Just be respectful, even if they are not. If they choose not to want your help, that is fine. You tried to help them, you did what you could. That's all you can do. Sometimes people can be afraid to leave a situation after they've been there for so long, even if they know it hurts them. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themself, you have to wait until they want help. If they don't, you're not useless, because you try to help them and you still care about them even when they are mean to you, and that level of care is something I've seen a lot of people lack. Never think you are useless, you're a wonderful human being, and keep that about you.

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