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Friendship help plz!

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 04:34:20 +0000

So basically me and this girl were like besties and then she became besties with this other girl, and I’m fine with that but now, they LITERALLY CLING TO EACH OTHER. And when they’re not together my bestie talks bad about the other girl but then when they are back together she acts like nothing was wrong.

Uhm… issues

Tue, 16 May 2023 23:38:27 +0000

~ DISCLAIMER: Please do not read if you do not support pride. I am not looking for peoples opinions on that. Also, this is sort of long. You’ve been warned. ~

I am a 13 year old questioning her sexuality. My bestie is doing the same but basically gay in denial lol. My other 3 friends belong to the pride community too (pan girl, lesbian and queer girl/guy). We’re one big rainbow group and it wasn’t intentional at all-

My bestie has had a crush on the pansexual one. I thought it was funny. She always tells me all her crushes and normally gets over them in a month. But recently she’s been telling me “I don’t like her anymore” and then saying “I changed my mind.” Umm… but I’ve been hoping she’s going to keep changing her mind… because I like the pansexual one too. I guess we both have good taste.

But anyways, I’ve been trying to be the supportive friend like “GO TALK TO HERRRR!” It’s kind of difficult to imagine them together, cause I’d rather replace my bestie in that scene… I refuse to tell my bestie my crushes and haven’t told her any of them. The 2 I’ve had this year she also had (popular guy and then that girl) and I just don’t feel like breaking her heart or her shoving me into their arms. But the pansexual one (I’ll call her P now) isn’t taken, has no clue my bestie likes her, and is always very touchy and outgoing, so I can’t tell if she likes me back. I do know though that when she hugs all five of us she often hugs me first. I dunno, P makes me feel nice and happy, and I just kind of easily forgive her flaws…

SO HERES THE ACTUAL QUESTIONS. One, how do I ease into a more romantic relationship with her without making it awkward (you know, not really dating because I’m too young but like.. I DUNNO-), and two, how do I tell my bestie?? I’m in a PICKLE. Please help meeeeeeeeeeeee!

Update: My bestie is being confusing again and saying she’s straight (DENIAAAAL) and then said she thinks P likes me. So I confessed and she was happy for me but I refused to let her tell anyone. But if P likes me… OH GOOD GOD IM FLIPPING OUT GDBSVHEERSRESIUIHIUB

Questioning..

Thu, 06 Apr 2023 04:26:35 +0000

So I am 12 but I kind of know I am Pansexual (at least that's what im calling myself right now). I don't really have a preference but if i had to choose I would prefer girls.

Anyway, I already came out to my dad and he supports but he thought I was too immature to know my sexuality at such a 'young' age, but I've known since I was 10 and the only person I've been able to tell was my friend. My mom also knows and she supports but I know deep down she also thinks its just another one of my weird phases.

So yeah I've only really been able to tell my friends. In the beginning I thought I was lesbian because I had a crush on this girl in my class. We became really good friends and I eventually told her I liked her, which is when she told me that she was actually a Trans Masc and used he\they pronouns now. I was very happy for him but it made me question myself again, and when I did more research I found out I was Pan. I was very happy about it.

Then he (I will call him Jay for privacy reasons) started crushing on this girl named Abby. I was so jealous because we had "dated" for a few months until he just broke up with me one day. I had actually seen it coming though, since he hadn't been himself. I was heartbroken, because I am Aroace and have difficulty expressing feelings. I had never liked anyone before besides him.

We stayed friends though and he started chasing Abby. Naturally I was happy that he was finally in love with someone but I still liked him and I felt very awkward around her.

Then my other friend Kate, who I am kind of friend-aquaintance with, told me that her ad Abby had been chatting and Abby told her that she didn't actually like Jay, and that he made her uncomfortable. I was surprised because Abby had been holding Jays hand everywhere and acting all romantic and I thought she liked Jay back but I guess not. I didn't know how to tell Jay though cause naturally he was one of my closest friends and it was really hard but eventually I just broke and told him. He though I was joking at first but a few weeks later Abby confirmed it and apologized to Jay.

Idk what to do, because I like Jay and Abby knows that but I know he doesn't have feelings for me anymore.

I also don't know my gender identity. My assigned birth gender is Female btw. I feel like a Trans Masc but also Non Binary and also Female at the same time. I also feel like none of them but all of them. It's a weird feeling. right now I am using He\She\They pronouns until I figure it out. Im sorry this was so long but does anyone have any advice?? (im sorry if this seems way too dramatic and weird btw, because it fully is haha)

Friendship porblems

Mon, 16 Jan 2023 18:52:02 +0000

DISCLAMER: THIS WILL LONG! So........as u have read the title, im having friendship problems. Let's name my toxic friend Ashley we are not using her real name 4 privacy purposes. Okay so me and Ashley have known each other since kindergarten and we were very close. Well we hung out a couple days a go and we were looking up gunny things and taking screenshots.then we watched Wednesday together and u wanted dto take a pic so I did and she yelled at me. After she left I asked her if she could txt me it and she said No! We had a fight and when I said I'm leaving this bye she said yes ur finally leaving its about time brat. And I didn't understand why. Idk what to do now and I need advice. Thanks 4 reading!

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Low self esteem issues :(

Fri, 09 Dec 2022 23:03:35 +0000

**WARNING: INCREDIBLY PERSONAL AND MEANT FOR GIRLS. BOYS, I AM NOT EXCLUDING YOU, BUT THIS MAY MAKE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE AND I APOLOGIZE**

alright now that that's out of the way...

So I have low self esteem issues. I do not go to therapy or anything like that, not that anything can ever make me feel better about my body.

So I will say it plainly: I don't like the way I look. My girlfriend sometimes jokes around about how my...watermelons...are too small. And they are. All the girls at school have the nicest bodies. They all are literally gorgeous. I have never, not once, had someone crush on me besides my girlfriend.

Everyone makes fun of my big nose aswell. I am over 50% german, and my nose is quite large, ngl...

i also have the most boring clothes ever. I never wear anything interesting aside from sweatpants in shades of black or gray or my black hoodie.

I really hate my personality as well. I always feel like people only talk to me because I talk to them first. I try to make jokes and laugh along with my friends even when I don't necessarily understand what they are talking about, and I really hate myself for that.

Its not that I want a lot of attention, I dont. I just want someone to call me pretty once in my life, aside from my relatives and neighbors.

No matter what I do with my hair or my clothes, I never feel like I am truly pretty or that I stand out. I also never know how to act with others. When im with this one friend, Cora, I try to mimic her personality and be an outgoing jokester. But when I am with my other friend, Norah, I try to agree with everything she says and just play along. when I hang with my other friend, Riana, I act like a 'popular' girl and try to make myself feel like I am as gorgeous as she is.

Idk what to do anymore. Every time I feel good about myself, I immedietely feel ugly when im in the presence of other girls at school...what do I do?

Kinda questioning my identity and relationship rn...

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 22:58:11 +0000

This is gonna be a long one, I apologize in advance.

A year ago I thought I was lesbian as I had been crushing on multiple girls. Not gonna lie I didn't really know what being lesbian felt like until I started feeling odd romantic feelings to wards others of the same gender as me. I will be honest...I didn't really question it at first before shyly coming out to my closest companions.

Then the 'girl' I had been crushing on, who also just so happens to be my close friend, told me that she was actually using he/him pronouns and was not going to be described as a female anymore. This kind of ruined me and I went through a few mental breakdowns and a lot of self-questioning.

Mind you, this is all happening a year after I came out to my dad as lesbian. I am starting to think I may be pansexual, but I don't really know. I've been laying in my room for the past 2 days, not going to school because I had a 'cold'. I just kept contemplating my identity and doubting myself and sobbing silently. I honestly feel like its too soon for me to be changing my identity like this, and I don't want it to seem like its just a 'phase' and I am trying to look 'cool' by calling myself LGBTQ+, and for others to judge me unfairly.

I confessed my confusion and crush to my friend, who I mentioned earlier. He was very understanding and said he liked me too and that he (who is trans himself) had romantic feelings for me as well. So now we are dating, though it is uncomfortable since I haven't come to a conclusion on my identity yet. He has been very patient with me and I really appreciate it.

As I mentioned earlier, I already told my father that I was lesbian and I don't know if its possible for me to change my feelings this way..and I started to wish my partner didn't tell me what he told me about his pronouns and gender. But I now realize how unfair that was of me. I don't want it to seem like 'oh yeah, I said I was lesbian but now I wanna be pansexual. I can change myself whenever I want', you know?

And what if my partner breaks up with me in the future? Do I just go back to being 'lesbian'?? I don't want it to seem like I only told people I was pansexual for my partner, or some insane nonsense like that. Every time someone asks me my sexuality, I just tell them I don't know and its awkward for me, my partner, and the person I told it to.

I need help, seriously. This is affecting my grades and I am really going through a rough patch in my life. I need some honest opinions from yall. I would really appreciate it. thank you

Relatoonship Issues (Personal)

Sat, 19 Nov 2022 02:39:59 +0000

So I am Pansexual and have a boyfriend but I have recently started losing feelings for him a bit. When I got with him, I was madly in love and was blinded. I am starting to crush on a girl in my World Cultures class, but I am insecure about my looks and have insanely low self esteem, and meanwhile she is literally a goddess. She is beautiful and amusing and intelligent, and I feel like I could never match that level of amazingness. The thing is, she barely ever notices me and is already dating another girl. Every time I see her and her girlfriend I get this immedietely jealous feeling and I don't know why, especially since I still love my boyfriend a lot.

The thing is, if I broke up *** my boyfriend I feel like it would be awkward, especially since we are literally best friends and I doubt our friendship could go back to being normal.

My boyfriend is autistic and dyslexic but is very sweet and respects me. This girl is also very similar and I am attracted to her as well. What do I do? I still have feelings for my boyfriend, yet I also like this girl, but she's dating someone. I need advice here, I am stuck in the middle and very confused.

Friendship drama

Sat, 05 Nov 2022 00:44:46 +0000

So...this is gonna get really personal and a bit weird so you've been warned .

I have been dating this girl, Lila, for two years now. We are incredibly close and I love her a lot. I have this other close friend, Trisha, and I've known her for years but have never really spoken to her much. We grew close over the last couple months and now we are basically inseperable.

I thought Trisha was a good friend, as she always is sweet and kind with people, but just recently she started being really rude about my girlfriend and me. She sat with me at lunch the other day (my girlfriend was sick and out of school for the day) and started talking trash about my girlfriend and her dress style, makeup, and the hobbies she enjoyed. She also said that Lila had been bullying her, which I knew wasn't true because Lila is one of the most polite people I know.

Naturally I told my girlfriend, and she was so ticked off that she started screaming at Trisha the next day. Trisha ignored us both and acted like we didn't exist and she had done nothing wrong.

Yesterday, (Thursday) I went over to Lilas house to hang out and found Trisha there. Lila told me that Trisha had wanted to come, and I knew that even if Lila is mad at someone, she doesn't want to make enemies and accepts everyone. I respect it. So I went to the bathroom halfway into the playdate and came back a few minutes later to find Trisha grabbing Lila by the neck and forcing her to kiss her. I literally had to throw Trisha off my girlfriend after that stunt.

I told my parents and Trishas mom, and Lila had nothing to do with it. I honestly don't know why Trisha was talking trash about my girlfriend but kissed her a few days later, and I don't think I want to know.

Trisha is mad and says that she did it because I 'stole' Lila from her and that I am a horrid friend. I felt guilty for dating Lila when I realized that Trisha had been crushing on her this whole time, although I don't think my friend should have went as far as to force someone to kiss her.

What do you guys think? My friend is mad at me and my girlfriend is so traumatized that she hasn't been speaking to anyone for a few days. I need advice, quickly. Sorry this was kinda long, its a lot to explain.

So...Friendship/Relationship issues here

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 01:41:04 +0000

Hey guys, just wanted to warn that this is a bit personal and involves a lot of relationship issues.

So boom, I invited two of my girl best friends to go trick or treating with me and my little brother. Keep in mind, one of the girls was my girlfriend. We had an absolute blast and my girlfriend and friend and I all got really sugar high. In the car on the way home, my girlfriend, who we will call Maggie, and my friend, who we will call Katie, were goofing off and pretending to kiss. My girl is heavily autistic and has dyslexia, so this was funny and normal and we were all laughing about it. Until, Maggie and Katie actually kissed. On the lips. Right in front of me.

I couldn't say anything, obviously, because my mom was right there and didn't know I was dating Maggie. after they got dropped off, the started spamming our groupchat with kissy emojis and 'lol's, and they thought it was all a big joke. But in school today I got really annoyed at them. I don't know if I was overreacting or being too sensitive, but the fact that Maggie, my literal girlfriend, kissed another girl in front of my face before we had even had our first kiss yet.

And to make matters worse, both of the girls sat with me at lunch today and they were holding hands. they didn't even say hello to me for five minutes. I feel lonely and ignored but I love Maggie and Katie is a good friend as well.

I need to know if I am overreacting and what advice you guys have for me. thanks for listening to all this.