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TRAUMA DUMP #7 (Final)

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 08:53:17 +0000

Date: 2021-2023

Age at the time: 6-9

My dad had just painted the wall of the sitting room black and then he and my mom went out for a bit. When he came back he found a hand print on the wall and he asked us who did it. I said I didn't and my brother said he didn't so my dad said he would beat both of us until one person owned up. And he did, and from what I can remember that went on for at least an hour. Eventually, either my brother owned up, or my dad said I could go (I don't remember which.) The horrible thing is that, later that day, he said he knew it was my brother and he was "sorry" for beating me for no reason. What makes things even worse was, at the time, I thought that I was the one on the wrong, and that he did it for a reason. I thought that was fair, what he did, and that just goes to show how horrible he could be.

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TRAUMA DUMP #6

Sun, 17 Aug 2025 11:30:51 +0000

Date: 2020-2022

Age at the time: 5-8

Sometime between 2020 and 2022, I had a habit of looking at the clock during dinnertime to make sure I didn't take too much time to eat. So one day my dad said I would have to hold the clock and stay awake and if I fell asleep I would be beaten. And he kept me there until nearly midnight, which was way past my bedtime at the time. He even threatened to keep me awake until 1:00.

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TRAUMA DUMP #5

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 15:02:56 +0000

Date: December 29th, 2024

Age at the time: 10

I came into the Airbnb and I was carrying me and my brother's bag. I put it in our room and when I exited the room, Dad told my brother and me to get the bags out of the car first. (That is not the exact wording, he might have said something different.) He spoke to me in a loud voice so I got upset. Not upset enough to cry, but when I got a bag from the car and Dad saw me being sad, he said "Snap out of it!" I do not remember exactly what he said next, but in general the message was "Stop crying!" He said everything in an intimidating voice, so I almost cried. He told me to stand in a corner if I wanted to cry and I said I didn't want to cry. So I continued carrying bags inside. Eventually, the stress was too much and I started to cry. He told me to go stand in a corner and I did. I cried so much I vomited. Then I was told there were buffaloes roaming, so I needed to get inside. So I did, but by the time I got inside, I was so stressed I got a panic attack. I sat in a seat in the sitting room and when Dad found me there, he wanted to know what I was doing there. So I told him I was told to get inside because there were buffaloes but he asked me if I had seen any and I told him I had not. So he told me to go back to the corner I was crying in and this time, he followed me. I wanted to tell him something because he was talking to me in a loud voice and I knew if I told him normally (for a situation like this) he would have interrupted me. I do not remember what I told him, but I told him something. So I told him loudly, which I admit is bad. Then he said I was talking back to him. Some minutes later, he asked me something along the lines of "Are you going to stop crying or continue crying?" I remember it was in that order, because of what happened next. I told him "The first one." Then he said I was talking back to him. A few minutes later, he said that he wasn't my classmate or my mom or grandmother that I could talk to like that, even though I just answered a question. I slowly calmed down and he said nearly the exact same words as this: "You're not a nine-year-old boy! I can't deal with you and your sister and the nonsense of your brother!" He said that it was like I missed being beaten. He told me that he was the one who drove from Nairobi to Naivasha, and he should be the one to relax. He said that all I wanted to do was play on my tablet, and that my baby sister was also making him stressed. Then he might have said something between that and the end of the lecture, but I'm not sure and if he did, I do not remember. But what he said at the end was: "Try me."

You know, just eight months prior I was a nine year old.

Posting these have made me realize how bad my dad is....

_zyzy

TRAUMA DUMP #4

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 11:10:58 +0000

On August 31st last year (I don't know why I remember the date) my brother and I had done our Saturday chores (sweeping & mopping room, same for stairs, washing sink, toilet and dishes.) Then my dad called us back because we hadn't done them properly and gave us (I think?) 30 minutes to do them all again. We weren't done by then, so he said he would beat us. He started with my brother, and that's when things got worse. He made my brother put his arms up and keep his arms straight, then he started beating his hands. He said every time my brother moved his hands, he would increase my number of strokes by three. The cruel thing is, every time he moved his hands, my dad would smile at me, like he wanted to hurt me. We eventually got to a point where I was about to receive over 1,000 strokes, but that didn't happen. It was a different story for my brother, however. He got beaten SO MUCH. I thought I had PTSD for a few days after that.

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TRAUMA DUMP #3

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 06:43:49 +0000

These aren't so long so there's three.

Sometime in 2020, my dad was beating my brother because his coloring was bad. He called my brother's coloring "bogus".

Sometime from 2021-2023, I didn't say hi to my dad one Sunday morning and he said that because of that I would have to ask him for permission to do everything. So when we were at church later that day, my brother was going somewhere with my cousin (need I tell you she was 3, oldest at this time) and I decided to follow him. My dad found out and said when we get home, something was going to happen (I don't remember exactly what he said.) So when we got home he beat me.

Sometime between 2021-2023 again, the same thing happened - I didn't say hi to my dad when I saw him so he started beating me right then instead.

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TRAUMA DUMP #1

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 17:10:42 +0000

Date: May 2019

Age at the time: 5

I was celebrating my birthday at my dad's old house when my auntie (my dad's sister) wanted me to call my brother (six at the time). So I looked for him and I found him in a bedroom being beaten by my dad. I did whatever my auntie wanted me to do and then my dad said "you're next." So then because I was young (no, not even because I was young because he was and is very scary because, even now if I said no now he'd probably beat me even faster) I had to obey him and then he beat my brother and I for many hours (as of my memory, it was about two hours at least. Then he called my mom (who was in New York at the time) and we had to tell her why we were beaten. And I had to lie, though I don't know what I said, because I was beaten for no reason.

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