Hey everyone!
I use all pronouns but I prefer he/they pronouns. Whenever someone calls me a girl, woman, or uses she/her pronouns I just want to disappear. It makes me uncomfortable, but some days I am ok with it. (ah gender fluidity lol)
I wish my dad would know how they make me feel when he uses she/her pronouns on me, but I'm only 12 and according to him this is just another one of my weird phases. (its obviously not, and he never outright says it, but it's obvious that's what he thinks)
Anyway, I have Tae Kwon Do tonight and my dad is going to be driving me. I want to tell him in the car ride home but idk. Im scared he wont respect my pronouns. Maybe he will say its okay but still misgender me.
Im nonbinary and genderfluid. Im not a girl. Sometimes I feel more feminine (on those days, I call myself a demigirl), or want to use she/her pronouns, but again that is VERY rare. When those days happen, I tell my friends about it and they respect my pronouns.
But I look like a girl. I want to cut my hair super badly but idk what to cut it to. Im scared that he won't be able to think of me as a boy/nonbinary person because I look every inch a girl.
I want to know what y'all think about this, since a lot of you know what to do with this sort of thing. Its not like my dad is rude or purposefully misgenders me, but he just doesn't understand.
I want to talk to him about my pronouns tonight but idk what to say or how to phrase it. That's a lie, I know what I want to say but I don't know how to say it or how he will react.
Help please xD
- Dino