TL;DR
I’m going anonymous for this, because I’m would get in big trouble if my mother found out I talked about this on here.
A few months back(around 6-7 months) we found out that we where in a plural system and it took a good few months of in-depth researching to actually come to the turn that “oh, yeah I prolly have this”
So…we told out therapist, keeping it a secret from our family. But here’s the problem, my therapist wanted have one of my parents come in and we tell them.
And that’s what we did! I thought it went well, but turns out that when I got home—my parents talked it out and decided themselves, that not only do they not believe that we are a system, but ALSO that if we keep this up—there is to big of a risk to develop something “severe” (I forgot what it’s called. But only maybe 15% develop it, and then only it’s just the slightest bit) and that THEY decided that if I didn’t stop “finding comfort” in the plural system community; I would have to take medicine to make them go away.
Which, tell me how their thinking makes since.
1. You say you don’t believe us
2. Then you say that if we don’t work towards “repressing” these personality’s that we will develop a VARY VARY severe case of something (she said that I will basically have to have others feed me, and I won’t be able to find a job because I can’t do anything on my own) that is already EXTREMELY hard to get.
3. I will have to take medicine if I don’t stop.
After this conversation nother was brought up agian, except for the fact that I was going to a psychiatrist in a month, and I had to “get better” by then or I was going to HAVE to have medicine (for something that I haven’t officially been diagnosed with dumb)
Me and my therapist ‘pretended’ in a sort, to “repress these personality’s” and when it came to to visiting the psychiatrist, we actually got a really big win; and that he didn’t have any reason to prescribe medication, especially without an official diagnosis on this.
So ofc my mother got mad and in the car, said that he didn’t know what he was talking about and that we where going to get a second opinion with a psychologist (the only difference Is that a psychiatrist has gone to med school, and a psychologist hasn’t)
that brings us to present day ig
Ughhhh
I just don’t know WHAT to do.
And it’s just she’s so controlling to!
After we told her she blamed the internet (as we said earlier, we researched best we could on the internet are AFTER we started really realizing that their where other people in this body. And it’s not like 2 or 3 more it’s over 50–which just made her even more suspicious that we where faking) and in turn blocked EVERYTHING on safari except this, which makes it really hard to work on my school (I’m homeschooled) because I need access to articles on things for my history book.
*sigh
Idk what to do…do you have any advice?
And no, we can confront her because she would pull the “I’m an adult so I know better/am smarter”
And yes, I know that personality’s change. ESPECIALLY when going through puberty—and our individual personalities in the system to change! It would be weird if everyone stayed the same.
But mother doesn’t seem to understand that we are actually smart.
She thinks we’re dumb/ on a lower level than her because we have diagnosed ADHD and Dyslexia (along with dysgraphia) and we suspect we probably have Autism too.
And do you know what she does to “help” us with pur ADHD/other diagnoses?
She tries to get us to act ‘normal’. We once had a friend who has Autism and is on the side of the spectrum where she has a hard time with social interactions, but we understood her, we knew what it was like!
But my mother basically had us ditch her because she didn’t want to understand that you can be friends without talking all the time. She thought it was weird, even tho the only reason WE are not like that is because we have to mask our ADHD.
It’s not explicitly stated, but oh—it is definitely implied that we have to act ‘normal’
Oh, and to top it all off, we mostly all boys/trans so when we told our mother she told us that we can’t tell anyone because my brothers will lose friends. We are also religious (if I said it would prolly reveal who I am on KT) and so I’s my older brother, and the only difference is that that core (“OG” personality) has a nature based religion, and my older brother is Christian.
Yet he is aloud to tell ppl and go to church, while I’m not and I’m not even aloud to wear a vail to co-op. 
Oop, this is long.
I’ll stop now.
I probably wont get a reply back
*sigh.
