Quick question.

Question

Why dont people think that guys and girls have it equally difficult to exist because we both have standards and stereotypes to fit. We both go through tough things during puberty. But somehow in the end girls have it tougher. Yes, females have used to be oppressed but so have men. We have fixed the "roles" for women but the roles men haven't changed. Yes we dont have equal pay but guys are supposed to be tough and not cry and have muscles and stuff. I know women have beauty standards. Anyway why do girls appently have it tougher than guys?

Answer 1

Lol girls can choose to ignore those standards- in fact, many are toxic, anyways. Like all of these stupid Insta girls- c'mon, no one's THAT snatched  Ofc, I'm not saying it's okay to be overweight... Just, be healthy for YOU, okay?? :)

Makeup?? Don't wear it. Super trendy clothes?? Nah, dawg, where's my jeans, sweatshirt, and sneakers?? Doing your hair every morning to make it all curled?? Just run that bad-boi straightener through real quick (3 minutes, tops) some mornings. Lol, now I'm just ranting. 

Okay, here's something: why do I have to wear a bra?? , but honestly, they're uncomfy and I'd much rather go without one. I'm so freaking flat anyways (well, compared to my classmates lol), it barely matters. Okay, like I get it with like, tight, small shirts and see-through ones and that thing, but like, if I'm wearing a sweatshirt, like, no, I don't wanna wear one and get blamed for it. Just saying. 

Honestly though, I get it why life can be tougher for some girls. When I was 9 through 13, I was so worried about fitting into these stereotypical girl roles, with all of their trends and apps and clothes. I became really unhealthy to myself, and I would beat myself up and take it out on other people when I just couldn't do it. Not to mention my awkward, puberty body and period -_-  Eventually, around the time I turned 14, I just learned to accept the fact that even now that I'm older and could fit these "types," I won't. I learned to love myself, and I'm just rolling through life now. Also, my body figured itself out now XD And I got used to my period, and it's not even a big deal anymore (UNLESS I'm lifeguarding that week- then it is XD). Anyways, that's why I'm kinda over "life is tough for me 'cause I'm a girl" thing. 

So, maybe it's just me and I grew out of this whole thing, but I think that other girls will realize it too, after a while. Or maybe not XD

Honestly, I feel awful for guys. Their "stuff" doesn't happen until they're a little older, when people are more aware and more conscious XD They gotta go through that with everyone, and they don't get the chance some girls do when they're younger and can figure things out by the time they're in late middle school/ high school. 

Also, people are people, regardless of gender. We all have feeling and emotions. I hate it when people set really toxic standards for guys. Like, no, crying is good!! My mum used to say that "tears are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength."

Anyways, I guess no one really has it tougher. It's all in the mindset in each person, maybe. 

Huh. Just spit balling. 

Comments

Thank you!!!!!!

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This long and informative answer and then at then "just spit balling" LOL but still thanks for the answer.

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Lucky! I cannot not wear a bra! It would be so obvious with like all of my shirts. I don't have tight shirts at all though! yah, like some boys don't go through like any self-insecurity but most girls do! My mom won't let me wear EYESHADOW without asking her! Come on!  

Ikr to like everything you just said! 

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BlueZswagger only some boys do go through self insecurity but since not a lot of them do less people know and they sometimes dont get the care they deserve and that can lead to depression and then to make it worse they are supposed to be men and not show their emotions. Which is just sad to think about while girls usually go through insecurity and get the care they need before it turns into depression.

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That's true bc most boys don't feel like that can open up about their feelings. But boys and girls do go through different stages, and some are similar, and some are completely different, so it's hard to say that one is harder than the other.

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Haha, you're so lucky you don't have to wear a bra!! When I first did I was like, "I'm a teen now ," but after a few years I'm like, "can I not be?? These are uncomfy..." 

Ik, so off-topic with the discussion above 

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 I agree ^-^

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Yay! ;)

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Right! fr I was like I'm so big! XD

It's so lit though!

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Blueswagger How old are you?? Sorry if that's personal. I just wanted to know because you said you were not allowed to wear makeup with out asking. I CANT WEAR MAKEUP AT ALL AND IM 13!!!!!! sorry had a bad day.

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Lol, it kinda sucks. You want that cake of sweaty, nasty powder sitting on your face all day?? Just sounds really roasty-toasty and uncomfy :/ Plus, the more natural you are, I think the more pretty!! :)

Also, think about it- without makeup, that's as ugly as you'll ever look. Girls who wear makeup all the time- well, that's as pretty as they'll ever look, and not to mention, think about how they would look without it- people wouldn't recognize them!! Sorry, just ranting now. 

And I think she's 12 or 13, I could be wrong though 

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Also, what happened Turtle?? Ya wanna talk?? :)

Answer 2

I would say that both girls and boys have it hard, we just might not see how it's hard for others bc were not in there shoes.

Answer 3

everybody has struggles and some have it harder than others but it's not necessarily one gender that has it harder than the other, I was taught that it has to do a lot with the way you think. I have a lot of female friends and they go thru similar things I go thru in life but they seem to have it harder but I know that they OVERTHINK and it's something everybody does but instinctively girls think and worry more than guys.  us guys don't think thru things I know from experience XD. That's just my opinion though.