please help me fit in.

Question

We got new lunch seats and I got stuck at a table with the most popular girls in school! I do not fit in and I do not want to be lonely at lunch. I will not talk to teachers about it and they don't talk to me either. They're actually very nice and I think its because i'm not talking to them. I can't because I have nothing cool to talk about and I am not cool (I do not mean that in a hurtful way.) Also I don't want to turn into a "popular girl" I am not like that. We do not have anything in common so there is nothing to talk about with them. For the past few days I've been eating all alone in silence. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I'm not the type that wants to be popular either. engage them in a conversation

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I agree. Definitely try talking to them.

Answer 1

If you do not fit in then make your own group with your friends. I did that and It worked. The cool girls wanted to join.

Answer 2

I've never had a day in my life where I didn't sit in utter silence. To look at other people laughing playful, having fun without you. It's perfect.

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Sadly, this is relatable.

Answer 3

i would just look the one i hate most in the eye and say "ya nope!" and walk away to someone i have not really talked to often and don't hate and try to make a friend.

Answer 4

Well FuzzyFuzz, i can help

I see what you mean. I had to deal with the same thing in many places. If you don't know what to say, then think about it at your house. I made friends with some girls that look popular, then i ended up bieng popular with then. You can talk to the girls about something you think would be cool.

Answer 5

Dear FuzzyFuzz,

I totally know how you feel! I had this happen many times before. But here is what you need to do:

You need to just ignore them! Pretend they aren't even there! For example, say.. "Wow, those girls are having a really heated conversation! But what if they don't like what I say??" Nobody wants you to feel left out on things, but if you are terrified of what you say, you don't have to answer. Remember that!

 

Sincerely Yours,

Cindy7872 AJ

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But I don't want to eat in silence

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Okay then how about you like do something to occupy yourself, like a book or a journal or something. You can occupy yourself instead of talking, if you don't want to talk.