I have known my boy best friend since we were little kids (Lets call him Tom for privacy reasons). I have just recently (A year and a half ago) discovered I was lesbian and liked girls. One of my friends said she was asking Tom who he has a crush on (Yes, my friend is kind of in everyone's business), and she began shouting random names at him of kids at our middle school. He said "no" to each and every one. But, when she said my name he didn't respond and walked away. He has also been hanging out with me a lot more than usual. The thing is, since Im lesbian, I feel nauseous at the thought of being in an actual relationship with Tom.
When I was a little kid (3-5), I would always say that I wanted to marry Tom, which I think he felt the same about. He said the same things. Obviously, I was just a little kid and didn't know what LGBTQ+ was. I always thought it was the law to have a girl with a boy. I don't think Tom ever was joking about saying those things, and it disgusts me to this day.
I also have a crush on one of my girl best friends (Lets call her Bella for privacy reasons). I have been crushing on her since I met her. I always compliment her, stay by her side, and joke around with her. She is very important to me, which brings me into my next problem.
Bella has a close friend (Lets call her Veronica for privacy reasons), and I never realized that Veronica felt the same way I did about Bella. Sadly, I am super shy when it comes to telling my crush my feelings, and I waited too long. Veronica confessed to Bella before I did, and I literally almost cried in front of them.
The thing is, they have been dating for almost a full year now. A few months ago, Veronica started posting romantic things about other girls on her insta, and Bella was never mentioned in them. Then, my friend from before told us that Veronica had been cheating on Bella for months. She had over 5 girlfriends, and none of them knew about each other! I keep telling Bella to dump her, because I genuinely care and she doesn't deserve to be in a toxic relationship like that. Though, Bella was very stubborn and refused to speak to me, and I don't know what I did. Someone please help me.