Hello there, anonymous person. I'm Luna. I am lesbian and while I have not had issues with my gender, I do look into LGBTQ+ terms often and I have a friend who, I'm not sure what he identifies as now, but last I checked genderfluid. He was born female but prefers male pronouns and a male name now. I'll try to get him on here. But for the most part, everyone has called him by his preferred pronouns and name since he came out to everyone, the teachers, his friends, and students. However, his parents and sibling do misgender him however that's more of a different issue. At first, he started by only telling some close friends, which is how I came out as lesbian and that's what I recommend doing first. Then I'm not sure what he did next, family or school, but personally, my school knows I'm lesbian since I've come out, and nothing has really changed. I advise telling an adult that you trust as well, whether it be a teacher or a parent or something along the lines. If you don't want to talk to your parents about a therapist yet, try a school counselor. Personally, with the adult thing, my guidance counselor knows I'm lesbian and she treats it indifferently. I have also told my math teacher because she is more laid back and cool with it my friend has told her as well. Coming out online, however, is a good idea, like you are now. This website was the first place I came out, you can still find the post, it's titled "My secret..." or something along the lines. However, when I did it I used my account, or an alternate one, I'm not sure, but it wasn't anonymous. Do know, no one here will ever be homophobic or transphobic, everyone is quite friendly here and was supportive when I came out. Some did not quite support it, but they rather accepted it and they were fine with it. As for the labeling, there is nothing wrong with umbrella terms or being gender-questioning. If it bothers you to be an umbrella term then I can only recommend self-reflection and looking up gender terms. I don't recommend quizzes like BuzzFeed quizzes considering some of those say I'm bi or straight and just no. (Ew actually.) Some quizzes, however, that are found on psychological websites may be more helpful. Either way, trust your gut more. If you want to talk to me again, I have my own advice column called "Ask Luna, Anything!", I'm on KidzNet as lunamoonlight, and there is also an LGBTQIA+ Club category here.
